As a coach of female entrepreneurs, I am well aware that the relationship women have with money is different from that of men. Men are generally motivated by the energy of providing; whereas, women have a greater desire to serve and make a difference through their life work. There are, of course, situations where women (single moms, for example) sometimes play both roles: they are providers as well as the ones who share gifts through their life work.
Women also hold different fears around success than men do. Community builders at heart, many women fear how the success of their businesses may change their relationship with those close to them.
The fear of being disliked by others, along with the fear of outgrowing their partners, keeps women away from climbing the ladder of success. Anything we are afraid of and don’t acknowledge or face can keep success away from us.
I am here to tell you that it is a normal and universal fear for women to want to keep the family together, even if sometimes, this is at the expense of their own growth. Acknowledging this fear is okay; letting it hold you back isn’t.
The soul that is wanting to express itself doesn’t find peace without full expression. Therefore, sabotaging the desires of our soul due to the fear of losing our important relationships is not right.
The voice of the soul doesn’t stop. It keeps urging us to step up, claim the value of our work, and shine our light. The nagging sense of something needing to be expressed keeps knocking at our doors.
So what is a woman to do? Trust. Trust your heart to know that yes, more success will change the way you do things, but it doesn’t have to break apart your important relationships. You don’t have to hold yourself back due to the fear of losing relationships. If anything, after the initial hiccups of others getting used to the change, your relationships may actually improve. Because when we change, others around us often change, generally for the better in the long run. And this can actually be a positive move towards growth for all those involved. You may even decide to challenge that with which you are not satisfied, because with greater financial freedom comes greater choices and wider boundaries.
Remember, success is a process, so it is going to involve major changes in our lives and therefore, our relationships. But you need to trust in yourself, and find a good coach who will help you navigate through the changes as they come along. Know that you will always obtain more than you imagined when you follow your soul’s desires. This, in turn, will help you to make great decisions for the souls of those around you as well, and will hopefully inspire others to do the same.