Is Fear of Losing Relationships Holding You Back From Making Income?

 

As a coach of female entrepreneurs, I am well aware that the relationship women have with money is different from that of men. Men are generally motivated by the energy of providing; whereas, women have a greater desire to serve and make a difference through their life work. There are, of course, situations where women (single moms, for example) sometimes play both roles: they are providers as well as the ones who share gifts through their life work.

Women also hold different fears around success than men do. Community builders at heart, many women fear how the success of their businesses may change their relationship with those close to them.

The fear of being disliked by others, along with the fear of outgrowing their partners, keeps women away from climbing the ladder of success.  Anything we are afraid of and don’t acknowledge or face can keep success away from us.

I am here to tell you that it is a normal and universal fear for women to want to keep the family together, even if sometimes, this is at the expense of their own growth. Acknowledging this fear is okay; letting it hold you back isn’t.

The soul that is wanting to express itself doesn’t find peace without full expression. Therefore, sabotaging the desires of our soul due to the fear of losing our important relationships is not right.

The voice of the soul doesn’t stop. It keeps urging us to step up, claim the value of our work, and shine our light. The nagging sense of something needing to be expressed keeps knocking at our doors.

So what is a woman to do? Trust. Trust your heart to know that yes, more success will change the way you do things, but it doesn’t have to break apart your important relationships. You don’t have to hold yourself back due to the fear of losing relationships. If anything, after the initial hiccups of others getting used to the change, your relationships may actually improve. Because when we change, others around us often change, generally for the better in the long run. And this can actually be a positive move towards growth for all those involved. You may even decide to challenge that with which you are not satisfied, because with greater financial freedom comes greater choices and wider boundaries.

Remember, success is a process, so it is going to involve major changes in our lives and therefore, our relationships. But you need to trust in yourself, and find a good coach who will help you navigate through the changes as they come along. Know that you will always obtain more than you imagined when you follow your soul’s desires. This, in turn, will help you to make great decisions for the souls of those around you as well, and will hopefully inspire others to do the same.

What Does Your Love Life Have to Do With Making More Money?

Did you know that money and love issues are connected for women? Being unaware of our money issues can keep abundance away from us. We, as women, are heart-centered, and if our heart isn’t happy, it is not only difficult to make money, but it is even harder to hang on to the money we make.

For our hearts to be happy, and in order to feel love for who we are and what we do, we need to start with ourselves; self-love, that is. We need to pay attention to when we first learnt what love is in the family we grew up in, and how this and the family’s issues can unconsciously affect our ability to receive wealth.

Here are a few tips on paying attention to the issues of money in the family:

Think about…

Who Was The Breadwinner In The Family?

What role did they play in your life? How did the women in the family feel about receiving wealth? How did the men feel about sharing wealth? Whose role did you admire?

When Did You Make The Decision To Be Financially Independent?

When did you decide to become a career woman? Was it a happy choice or was it made because someone decided not to support you? -an ex-husband, father, etc. What impact did it have on you?

How Were The Resources Distributed In The Family?

If the resources distributed in the family were not distributed fairly amongst siblings or other members of the family, it can affect the one who did not receive as much, as well as the one who ‘over received’. The ‘under receiver’ can often continue to be loyal to the family by still playing low- making less, or having a lower self esteem.  And the over achiever can create more- more money or show more confidence- at the expense of the under receiver, and then feeling guilty about this.

Although we cannot change our family, we can become aware of the role we played in our family when it came to the distribution of resources, including love and money, and change it now. Gender issues in the family can also affect the ability to receive and give money.

Pay attention to some of the above issues in your individual family. There will be more coming in future workshops in the summer about your family’s place in the larger economic world.  In the meantime, I would encourage you to consider the following questions before the workshops:

Have you now dealt with how you make and deal with money without being affected by past family issues?

Do you allow yourself to use the money you make for fun experiences, or do you feel burdened with a sense of overwhelming responsibility with your finances?


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