When we are in a heart centered business we need to generate income sharing our heart gifts. However if our heart is bleeding and there is hurt around money experiences, it is very difficult to make a good income doing what we love.
20 years ago, after finally divorcing my ex-husband who was physically abusive, I migrated to Canada leaving my family behind in England, with no money and my family closed all the doors on me as divorce wasn’t acceptable in our family system.
I wasn’t raised in a poor family. My family had lots of money, but they were not willing to share it with me if I didn’t follow their rules.
After my relationship with my family didn’t work, I decided I didn’t like rich people. I was certain that people with money had no values and didn’t care for each other. I was also sure money was a trap rich people used to get people to do what they wanted. After all, that was my experience with my family. Their love was very conditional. All of these thoughts and decisions were not conscious, they were hidden deep down in my subconscious.
When I found myself in a situation where I was making less money than my expenses, being in a long distance relationship, and not being clear on my career path, I hit rock bottom.
It forced me to look inwards and change my beliefs around rich people and money. Since my relationship wounds happened in relationship with other people, I had to heal my relationship with other people in relation to money.
I totally believe we don’t create money issues alone, nor can we heal them in isolation. Anger wastes a lot of energy. It keeps us in conflict and in judgement of the very thing we want. Resolving our anger in relationship with money is the key to be completely free of money issues.
To grow in business, we need to colloborate with others, and our money issues will show up if they are not healed. They can show up in asking for money from our clients, charging for our value as well as trusting to pay others for the services we receive from them. (We do need to hire people in order to have more time to work at what we are good at and expand our horizon.) Broken trust shows up everywhere until it is healed, transformed and dealt with, in business and in life.
After doing my own money work and seeing my life and business flourish beyond my imagination, or I should say aligned with my imagination :), I see my clients receive miraculous results after they do inner money work.
We need money to be totally free and have more choices in life. We really cannot express our love for humanity unless we have our own money issues resolved. I work with a lot of healers and when they first come to work with me, I see that the same wounds that caused them to become a healer also stop them from charging their worth. I understand their intention, I acknowledge they want to help. I also see the gift of sensitivity they have because of their wounds, only after they start to charge fairly for their life work, their true light returns. They see their value and the ripple effect of asking for their value and getting what they are worth creates a shift that is lasting and is truly gratifying and an abundant experience for me to witness.
Remember, we cannot give to others what we don’t have. If we want to give charity or make a difference for people around the world, writing a cheque helps. There are other means of giving too like giving of our time. However, even if we cannot physically go to Africa, we can still contribute by donating money.
I would invite you to take a look at your life where you had hurtful money experiences and how they are affecting your ability to manifest abundance today.
Zahra Efan is an Abundant Business Coach, Best Selling Author, a Key Note speaker and a Trainer. Most importantly, she is a mother of two children and a wife, also a social activist at heart who wears many hats along with working with her fabulous clients.
She specializes in supporting creative female entrepreneurs to create financially successful businesses and soul satisfying abundant lifestyles. She combines her background in marketing and sales with her intuition to guide her clients toward successful businesses and fulfilling lives.
Zahra has been published in media extensively and has 30+ media interview including appearing on TV and Radio speaking about principles of abundance in business and life. One of her recent key note speech was at Vancouver’s Top Entrepreneurs event. She has also been published along side Debbie Ford in Aspire Magazine along with many other publications including best-selling book ‘Manifesting In High Heels.’
Zahra’s clients are located all over the world including Canada, Australia, and the United States. Zahra works with selected number of private clients, teaches group programs and gives workshop and key note speeches to large audiences. Her passion is to support female entrepreneurs creating a successful business with ease, joy and abundance.
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